bigjnels-
i personally know this member, he knows that he acted like a complete jerk, and i spoke to him privately in person about the entire incident. i apologize for his actions, and he has not/will not act in that manner again. since i knew him personally, i guess you could say he got one more additional chance than deserved. i deleted the thread two weeks ago, because it was getting completely out of hand, and i wanted to put an end to it.
i am sorry that you felt ashamed that there was no punishment...i appreciate your concern (yes, i really do) however, that is not your responsibility. i took this as a personal issue that i was able to deal with away from the forum. you have to realize that we are all actual people beyond these screen names and posts, and i had the opportunity to explain to him in person that the language he used was completely inappropriate for this type of forum. you can call it preferential treatment if you wish, or you can call it giving someone a second chance. i handled it in a way that i felt suitable for the circumstances.
this is my explanation. again, i sincerely apologize for his actions. you are an important member of the forum, and i hope that you stay and are able to feel comfortable in this environment.
